Got ya! I was absolutely sure you will read this as I had you in mind when writing this piece.
At one time the missionary position was sex. As a kid, if I read about sex or glimpsed a love scene on TV before my parents switched channels, that was the position the couple was in — the man on top, the woman gazing up at him adoringly. But then came the '90s, in Africa. The hemlines went down and women went up. Indeed, woman-on-top was virtually compulsory, and anyone who didn't have a sexual repertoire to rival the Kama Sutra had to hang her head in shame. "Feminists and sex experts united in the view that the missionary position made a woman passive and subservient to her man".... Well, thats their view. No wonder we didn't always climax — in that position the clitoris probably wasn't stimulated, and neither was the G-spot!
Of all positions, this is the most aesthetic. You don't have to be self-conscious about your body because most of it is covered by your husband's. And, for women anyway, there's no performance anxiety. This is a position everyone knows how to do. Lying on your back with nothing on your mind other than, say, how that stain got on the ceiling, you're in the ideal position to unwind and enjoy yourself. As my friend Bunmi, age 34 remarks, "I find it easier to have an orgasm in that position, because I'm more relaxed. With the others I'm constantly thinking about what I should be doing." It's the perfect position for the coy, the shy or the just plain lazy. "I can concentrate on me," says Mrs. O. a client turn friend I met years back.
Hmmm, for some of us, missionary or pentecostal, sex is sex. How you go about it doesn't matter. With this new generation, I have a feeling we will get to a point where people will have to hang up on the ceiling to get it done. To the daddies and mummies, I really you should style it up a little. Do the best you can to enjoy your marriage and keep it bonded. Yes...marriage, am only preaching to the married right now.
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